Choosing Friends

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Watering the Tulips


“He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed” – Proverbs 13:20

First of all, let it be plainly stated that lives are changed when the Holy Spirit reveals Christ to men. There is no such thing as a saved person that continues to live their life the way they did before they were saved. “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new” (II Corinthians 5:17). If you are a believer in Christ, you should be able to see a change in your lifestyle. Your “want to” should be much different than it was when you were “dead in trespasses and sins” (Ephesians 2:1).

If the Spirit of God has given you new life, it is your responsibility to “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling” (Philippians 2:12). As you begin your new life in Christ, you must make wise choices concerning your friends. There is simply no way for a child of God to associate socially with sinful people and not be negatively affected. If truth and error are mixed, the truth always suffers. Surely, we live in the world. We work alongside worldly people. However, we do not have to be a friend of the world (James 4:4).

Even David (a man after God’s own heart) saw the need to keep godly companions. In Psalms 119:63, David said, “I am the companion of all who fear You, And of those who keep Your precepts.” One would think David (being a man after God’s own heart) wouldn’t need godly companionship to properly serve the Lord. But, he needed the same support that we need. He needed the same encouragement that every child of God needs. David needed godly friends that would stand beside him as he tried to properly serve the Lord. You need the same thing.

Paul said, “Do not be deceived: ‘Evil company corrupts good habits’” (I Corinthians 15:33). Many children of God have deceived themselves into believing they were strong enough to be a friend of the world. They thought they wouldn’t be influenced to sin. But, this is not true. As we all still live in this world, there is a battle raging between the flesh and the Spirit of God. Though we may hate it, the flesh is a strong adversary. It takes constant effort to overcome the desires of the flesh. “Evil company” does nothing to promote a godly lifestyle and everything to destroy good works. How do we believe we can be about our Father’s business when we are involved in the sins of this world?

Child of God, this life is difficult at best. Even in the best of circumstances, we are going to make mistakes. Even with godly influences around us, we are yet sinners – sinners saved by grace, but, sinners nevertheless. Those we associate with need to be helpers in our life. Latch on to folks whom you see God working in their lives!! It will make your walk with Christ much easier – and sweeter!

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